是否覺得自己總是在原地打轉，一事無成？如何擺脫「loser」的困境？事實上，問題多半出在你自己身上，只是你沒有看見而已，而且要改變並不難，問題只在於你願不願意去改變。以下是《哈芬頓郵報》列出的7大原因：
1.因為你失敗得不夠多：你一直說要學習新的語言，卻從未真正執行；你厭惡現在的工作，卻只是不停地抱怨，不曾努力去找新的機會。你安逸於平庸，你選擇不去嘗試、不去挑戰自己。當你不願意嘗試，就沒有失敗的可能，也就失去了學習的機會。
2.因為你在意別人怎麼看你：你害怕自己和別人不一樣，努力要符合別人的期待，不敢表現真實的自己；太過在意別人的想法，卻不願意表達自己內心的感受；勉強自己去適應外在的世界，卻不敢改變這世界。
3.因為你自以為聰明：你努力讀書的目的只為了通過考試；你認為學習只有在學校的課堂，卻沒看到課堂外的人生，更值得你去學習、去認識。所謂的聰明，不是你學習到多少知識、也不是外在的成績分數，而是你如何面對人生、如何活出精彩的人生。
4.因為你不愛閱讀：你寧可花時間上網、看電視，卻無法靜下心來閱讀一篇文章、一本書。閱讀可以給你所有你需要的知識、解惑、情感支持與鼓勵。
5.因為你缺乏好奇心：你對任何事情都視為理所當然，從不提出反思與問題；對任何訊息和資訊，只有被動地吸收，卻沒有試著更深入研究，或者自己提出不同的想法；對於自己不了解、不熟悉的事物，也沒有意願想要去了解。
6.因為你不會提出問題：你不去質疑權威，甚至不曾質疑自己；你無法獨立思考、沒有自己的判斷力，無法提出有意義的問題；你從不仔細地聆聽別人的論述，只是急著表達自己的意見。
7.因為你無法面對真相：你不知道自己不知道什麼；你總想著走捷徑、想要找到可以解決所有問題的萬靈丹；你從未仔細地觀察周遭的世界，也從未正確地認識這世界，你對這世界的認知都來自於你自己的成見。（吳凱琳編譯）
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來源：哈芬頓郵報
7 Reasons Why You Will Never Do Anything Amazing With Your Life
Yeah that's right, you heard me... I'm talking to you... I'm calling you out.
I'm looking you in the eyes (OK well, not really since you are probably reading this article, but figuratively, I am burning a cyclops type hole in your face right now) and telling you that you don't stand a chance.
I'm telling you that if you can read this article, look through this list and not claim it as your own, then you should be a little worried.
Actually, you should be very worried. You should drop everything and immediately question your existence on earth. You should find a mirror, look yourself in the eyes, raise your hand and slap yourself in the face.
Got it? Now repeat that until you come to your senses and continue reading whenever you're ready.
I'm Talkin' Bout Street Skill, Son!
I'm not talking about the study hard, party light, graduate-top-of-your-class skills.
I'm not even talking about the slack-off, skip class, smoke weed, drink and party but still graduate skill-set your $50,000+ diploma has lead you to believe you have.
I'm talking bout step out your door, make some moves, and get-some-shit-done kinds of skills! Some move-out-your-mama's-house, quit your job, say "fuck the world" and then actually go do it kinds of skills.
The kinds of skills you develop in the real world, outside the bubble of your parents protection or the ideological indoctrination that has overwhelmed our entire educational system.
Skills that can be had by anyone willing to pay the price to get them. Skills that are quickly becoming extinct.
I'm talking bout skills that cannot be taught in a classroom or in a textbook. Skills you can only learn by doing; by learning how to fly after jumping off the cliff.
Skills that can only be developed when you find your true self. When you put yourself on the line or otherwise expose yourself to the possibility of failure.
The skills you can only develop when you are willing to risk it all in order to do that one amazing thing.
Skills that up until now, you thought you had.
"Basically, what I am trying to tell you is that, in this game called life, you don't stand a chance...
1) Because You Have Not Failed Enough
Because you are comfortable in your mediocrity; because you choose not to try.
Because it is easier to talk about learning that new (programming?) language as opposed to actually learning it.
Because you think everything is too hard or too complicated so you will just "sit this one out" or maybe you'll "do it tomorrow"!
Because you hate your job but won't get a new one; because it is easy to reject rejection.
Because while you're sitting around failing to try, I am out there trying to fail, challenging myself, learning new things and failing as fast as possible.
Because as I fail, I learn, and then adjust my course to make sure my path is always forward. Like the process of annealing steel, I've been through the fire and pounded into shape. The shape of a sword with polished edges and a razor sharp blade that will cut you in half if you are not equally hardened.
2) Because You Care What Others Think About You
Because you have to fit in.
Because you believe that being different is only cool if you're different in the same way that other people are different.
Because you are afraid to embrace your true self for fear of how the world will see you. You think that because you judge others, this means that those people must, in-turn, be judging you.
Because you care more about the stuff you have as opposed to the things you've done.
Because while you're out spending your money on new outfits, new cars, overpriced meals or nights at the bar, I'll be investing in myself. And while you try to fit in with the world I'll make the world fit in with me.
Because I will recklessly abandon all insecurities and expose my true self to the world. I will become immune to the impact of your opinion and stand naked in a crowd of ideas; comfortable in knowing that while you married the mundane I explored the exceptional.
3) Because You Think You Are Smarter Than You Are
Because you did what everyone else did; you studied what they studied and read what they read.
Because you learned what you had to learn in order to pass their tests and you think that makes you smart.
Because you think learning is only something people do in schools.
Because while you were away at college, I was studying life. Because instead of learning about the world in a classroom I went out and learned it by living.
Because I know more than any piece of paper you could ever frame from a university. Because smart is not what you learn, it's how you live.
Because I might not have a degree but I challenge you to find a topic that I can't talk to you about cohesively.
Because I could pass your tests if I had to, but you couldn't stand for a single second in the face of the tests that life has thrown me. Tests that are not graded on a bell curve or by percentages; tests that are graded by one simple stipulation: survival!
4) Because You Don't Read
Because you read the things you are required to read or nothing at all.
Because you think history is boring and philosophy is stupid.
Because you would rather sit and watch E! or MTV instead of exploring something new, instead of diving head first into the brain of another man in an attempt to better understand the world around you.
Because you refuse to acknowledge that all the power in the world comes from the words of those that lived before us. That anything you desire can be had by searching through the multitude of words that are available to us now more abundantly than ever before.
Because you are probably not reading this article even though you know you should.
Because the people that are reading this already know these things.
Because you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink.
5) Because You Lack Curiosity
Because you get your news from copy-cat members of the state-controlled media.
Because you are unwilling to ask this simple question... "What if it's all a lie?" and accept the possibility that maybe it is; that just maybe, the methods of mass media are under direct orders to: keep you distracted.
Because you call me a know-it-all but refuse to call yourself a know-nothing-at-all.
Because I thirst for knowledge, regardless the topic.
Because while you're busy playing Candy Crush or Megalopolis, I am reading about string theory and quantum mechanics.
Because while you waste your time with Tosh.o I am learning how to edit video, build websites and design mobile apps.
Because if we were to go heads-up in a debate, I would crush you. I would make it a point to defeat my own argument; from every imaginable angle; in order to understand everything you might be able to use against me.
Because I would dedicate myself to understanding both sides of the argument so thoroughly that I could argue your side for you and win; even after having just handed you a defeat in the same debate.
6) Because You Don't Ask Enough Questions
Because you do not question authority.
Because you don't question yourself.
Because you don't understand the power of properly placed questioning in life, respectful disagreements and standing up for what you know to be right in the face of someone telling you otherwise. Unable to question reality; stuck in a self imposed survival strategy within a matrix-style monotony.
Because I know that you will give me all the information I need to destroy you by letting you talk.
Because I study human behaviors and you ignore everyone but yourself.
Because I watch how you say the things you say just as closely as I listen to what you say; and you say way too much!
Because control comes, not from spewing your ignorance like some incurable case of logorrhea, but from properly structuring the context of your questions.
Because I study the premise of your argument and destroy it from the ground level before you even get a chance to establish your ideas.
7) Because You Can't Handle The Truth
Because you refuse to admit that you don't even know the things you don't know.
Because there isn't an article online that would make up for all the time you have wasted in life.
Because even if I told you everything could be different tomorrow you would wait until then to begin doing anything about it.
Because even when you think I'm not, I'm aware of my surroundings.
Because you think that since I have not acknowledged you, it means that I have not seen you.
Because, you walk around with your head up your ass, oblivious to the world around you. Blissfully ignorant of the reality that sits so close to your face that if you stuck your tongue out, just once, you would taste it and realize how delicious the truth actually is.
Because you would become an instant addict. Unable to pull yourself from the teat of truth. Finally able to understand your lack of understanding, and then you would see; then you would know that the only thing holding you back from doing something truly amazing, is you.
1.因為你失敗得不夠多：你一直說要學習新的語言，卻從未真正執行；你厭惡現在的工作，卻只是不停地抱怨，不曾努力去找新的機會。你安逸於平庸，你選擇不去嘗試、不去挑戰自己。當你不願意嘗試，就沒有失敗的可能，也就失去了學習的機會。
2.因為你在意別人怎麼看你：你害怕自己和別人不一樣，努力要符合別人的期待，不敢表現真實的自己；太過在意別人的想法，卻不願意表達自己內心的感受；勉強自己去適應外在的世界，卻不敢改變這世界。
3.因為你自以為聰明：你努力讀書的目的只為了通過考試；你認為學習只有在學校的課堂，卻沒看到課堂外的人生，更值得你去學習、去認識。所謂的聰明，不是你學習到多少知識、也不是外在的成績分數，而是你如何面對人生、如何活出精彩的人生。
4.因為你不愛閱讀：你寧可花時間上網、看電視，卻無法靜下心來閱讀一篇文章、一本書。閱讀可以給你所有你需要的知識、解惑、情感支持與鼓勵。
5.因為你缺乏好奇心：你對任何事情都視為理所當然，從不提出反思與問題；對任何訊息和資訊，只有被動地吸收，卻沒有試著更深入研究，或者自己提出不同的想法；對於自己不了解、不熟悉的事物，也沒有意願想要去了解。
6.因為你不會提出問題：你不去質疑權威，甚至不曾質疑自己；你無法獨立思考、沒有自己的判斷力，無法提出有意義的問題；你從不仔細地聆聽別人的論述，只是急著表達自己的意見。
7.因為你無法面對真相：你不知道自己不知道什麼；你總想著走捷徑、想要找到可以解決所有問題的萬靈丹；你從未仔細地觀察周遭的世界，也從未正確地認識這世界，你對這世界的認知都來自於你自己的成見。（吳凱琳編譯）
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來源：哈芬頓郵報
7 Reasons Why You Will Never Do Anything Amazing With Your Life
Yeah that's right, you heard me... I'm talking to you... I'm calling you out.
I'm looking you in the eyes (OK well, not really since you are probably reading this article, but figuratively, I am burning a cyclops type hole in your face right now) and telling you that you don't stand a chance.
I'm telling you that if you can read this article, look through this list and not claim it as your own, then you should be a little worried.
Actually, you should be very worried. You should drop everything and immediately question your existence on earth. You should find a mirror, look yourself in the eyes, raise your hand and slap yourself in the face.
Got it? Now repeat that until you come to your senses and continue reading whenever you're ready.
I'm Talkin' Bout Street Skill, Son!
I'm not talking about the study hard, party light, graduate-top-of-your-class skills.
I'm not even talking about the slack-off, skip class, smoke weed, drink and party but still graduate skill-set your $50,000+ diploma has lead you to believe you have.
I'm talking bout step out your door, make some moves, and get-some-shit-done kinds of skills! Some move-out-your-mama's-house, quit your job, say "fuck the world" and then actually go do it kinds of skills.
The kinds of skills you develop in the real world, outside the bubble of your parents protection or the ideological indoctrination that has overwhelmed our entire educational system.
Skills that can be had by anyone willing to pay the price to get them. Skills that are quickly becoming extinct.
I'm talking bout skills that cannot be taught in a classroom or in a textbook. Skills you can only learn by doing; by learning how to fly after jumping off the cliff.
Skills that can only be developed when you find your true self. When you put yourself on the line or otherwise expose yourself to the possibility of failure.
The skills you can only develop when you are willing to risk it all in order to do that one amazing thing.
Skills that up until now, you thought you had.
"Basically, what I am trying to tell you is that, in this game called life, you don't stand a chance...
1) Because You Have Not Failed Enough
Because you are comfortable in your mediocrity; because you choose not to try.
Because it is easier to talk about learning that new (programming?) language as opposed to actually learning it.
Because you think everything is too hard or too complicated so you will just "sit this one out" or maybe you'll "do it tomorrow"!
Because you hate your job but won't get a new one; because it is easy to reject rejection.
Because while you're sitting around failing to try, I am out there trying to fail, challenging myself, learning new things and failing as fast as possible.
Because as I fail, I learn, and then adjust my course to make sure my path is always forward. Like the process of annealing steel, I've been through the fire and pounded into shape. The shape of a sword with polished edges and a razor sharp blade that will cut you in half if you are not equally hardened.
2) Because You Care What Others Think About You
Because you have to fit in.
Because you believe that being different is only cool if you're different in the same way that other people are different.
Because you are afraid to embrace your true self for fear of how the world will see you. You think that because you judge others, this means that those people must, in-turn, be judging you.
Because you care more about the stuff you have as opposed to the things you've done.
Because while you're out spending your money on new outfits, new cars, overpriced meals or nights at the bar, I'll be investing in myself. And while you try to fit in with the world I'll make the world fit in with me.
Because I will recklessly abandon all insecurities and expose my true self to the world. I will become immune to the impact of your opinion and stand naked in a crowd of ideas; comfortable in knowing that while you married the mundane I explored the exceptional.
3) Because You Think You Are Smarter Than You Are
Because you did what everyone else did; you studied what they studied and read what they read.
Because you learned what you had to learn in order to pass their tests and you think that makes you smart.
Because you think learning is only something people do in schools.
Because while you were away at college, I was studying life. Because instead of learning about the world in a classroom I went out and learned it by living.
Because I know more than any piece of paper you could ever frame from a university. Because smart is not what you learn, it's how you live.
Because I might not have a degree but I challenge you to find a topic that I can't talk to you about cohesively.
Because I could pass your tests if I had to, but you couldn't stand for a single second in the face of the tests that life has thrown me. Tests that are not graded on a bell curve or by percentages; tests that are graded by one simple stipulation: survival!
4) Because You Don't Read
Because you read the things you are required to read or nothing at all.
Because you think history is boring and philosophy is stupid.
Because you would rather sit and watch E! or MTV instead of exploring something new, instead of diving head first into the brain of another man in an attempt to better understand the world around you.
Because you refuse to acknowledge that all the power in the world comes from the words of those that lived before us. That anything you desire can be had by searching through the multitude of words that are available to us now more abundantly than ever before.
Because you are probably not reading this article even though you know you should.
Because the people that are reading this already know these things.
Because you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink.
5) Because You Lack Curiosity
Because you get your news from copy-cat members of the state-controlled media.
Because you are unwilling to ask this simple question... "What if it's all a lie?" and accept the possibility that maybe it is; that just maybe, the methods of mass media are under direct orders to: keep you distracted.
Because you call me a know-it-all but refuse to call yourself a know-nothing-at-all.
Because I thirst for knowledge, regardless the topic.
Because while you're busy playing Candy Crush or Megalopolis, I am reading about string theory and quantum mechanics.
Because while you waste your time with Tosh.o I am learning how to edit video, build websites and design mobile apps.
Because if we were to go heads-up in a debate, I would crush you. I would make it a point to defeat my own argument; from every imaginable angle; in order to understand everything you might be able to use against me.
Because I would dedicate myself to understanding both sides of the argument so thoroughly that I could argue your side for you and win; even after having just handed you a defeat in the same debate.
6) Because You Don't Ask Enough Questions
Because you do not question authority.
Because you don't question yourself.
Because you don't understand the power of properly placed questioning in life, respectful disagreements and standing up for what you know to be right in the face of someone telling you otherwise. Unable to question reality; stuck in a self imposed survival strategy within a matrix-style monotony.
Because I know that you will give me all the information I need to destroy you by letting you talk.
Because I study human behaviors and you ignore everyone but yourself.
Because I watch how you say the things you say just as closely as I listen to what you say; and you say way too much!
Because control comes, not from spewing your ignorance like some incurable case of logorrhea, but from properly structuring the context of your questions.
Because I study the premise of your argument and destroy it from the ground level before you even get a chance to establish your ideas.
7) Because You Can't Handle The Truth
Because you refuse to admit that you don't even know the things you don't know.
Because there isn't an article online that would make up for all the time you have wasted in life.
Because even if I told you everything could be different tomorrow you would wait until then to begin doing anything about it.
Because even when you think I'm not, I'm aware of my surroundings.
Because you think that since I have not acknowledged you, it means that I have not seen you.
Because, you walk around with your head up your ass, oblivious to the world around you. Blissfully ignorant of the reality that sits so close to your face that if you stuck your tongue out, just once, you would taste it and realize how delicious the truth actually is.
Because you would become an instant addict. Unable to pull yourself from the teat of truth. Finally able to understand your lack of understanding, and then you would see; then you would know that the only thing holding you back from doing something truly amazing, is you.
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